Meet The Modern Phoenix
Welcome to the Modern Phoenix Podcast! Born from the ashes of the “It’s All Me” podcast, The Modern Phoenix is here to guide, inspire, and empower you to rise into the truest, most powerful version of yourself. In this episode, Gervase shares the heart behind the podcast rebrand, what it means to be a “modern woman,” and how the Phoenix archetype offers a powerful guide for personal evolution. Keep listening to hear how knowing and choosing yourself despite our social conditioning, trusting your inner wisdom, and making bold choices are key to becoming who you were meant to be.
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Who Is The Modern Phoenix?
Episode Full Transcript
Hi friends. Welcome to the Modern Phoenix Podcast.
This is a new and improved podcast, born from the ashes of the It’s All Me podcast. I am Gervase Kolmos—Inner Transformation Coach, Modern Woman, Phoenix, mama of three, human, paradox.
Today’s episode is going to share what this podcast is all about—how it will guide you to know and choose what you want in your life. I’ll also share why it’s called The Modern Phoenix, who the Modern Phoenix is, and how I believe this archetype can help you become the version of yourself your soul is asking you to be, the version your body is asking you to free.
So let’s get into it.
This podcast is a complete education in knowing and choosing. Knowing your wants and your needs, guided by the wisdom of your mind, body, and soul. And choosing them—despite expectations, conditioning, and constraints. Because those will always be there. As I like to say in my world: life is going to keep “life-ing.”
I was talking with a client today, and she said she’s tuning into the best version of herself. She feels that version positively impacts everyone she connects with. But she also realized that the “best version” of her is very different from who she was conditioned to believe she was supposed to be.
So let’s dive into what it means to be a modern woman.
For many of us who identify as women, the “best version” has always been defined by external standards: the most accomplished, successful, rich, beautiful, likable, popular, the one who pleases others. Many women now are untangling patterns of people-pleasing and self-abandonment—ways of “womaning” we were taught were required to be our best.
But what we’ve realized, thanks to the tools and access we have as modern women, is that this “best version” may have been more palatable for those around us, but it wasn’t serving our communities at the highest level. Because it cost us too much to deny our true, full, imperfect, evolving selves.
To be a modern woman is to face unique challenges born from the conditioning of generations before us and the culture our mothers, grandmothers, and ancestors were born into. They were taught: here’s how to be the best version of yourself. Here’s how to be a good woman.
But because we are modern, we have unprecedented opportunity to choose differently. We have the privilege, safety, and access to make choices our mothers couldn’t. Not only do we have more rights, but also more information, technology, and connection points to people all over the world. This creates both awakening and overwhelm.
Because at the same time, modern life bombards us with demands. Never before have women faced so many expectations. We’re told how to be the best mothers, the healthiest humans, the most “woke” activists, the kindest partners, the sexiest lovers. It’s paralyzing. Whether you’re working in the home, in the workplace, partnered, or single—social media and cultural conditioning make it confusing and overwhelming to know who you really are, what you want, and to feel safe enough to choose it.
Women often come into my world asking: Why do I do this? Why do I feel this way? Why do I think this way? The why is actually pretty simple: our conditioning. Internalized patriarchy, capitalism, religion, white supremacy—systems that shape our nervous systems, minds, patterns, and beliefs. It’s no wonder it feels hard to know and choose when the conditioning is so strong.
I am not here to make anything about you—or the world—better or wrong. I am here to help you see the unseen. To name the obstacles keeping you from self-trust and freedom. To help you tune into your intuition, your inner wisdom, and create your life from a place of embodied self-trust, wisdom, and pleasure.
I weave together modalities that work with the mind, body, and soul. I am certified in focalizing—a trauma-informed somatic practice for nervous system regulation. I also use hypnotherapy, which works with subconscious beliefs and reprogramming the mind, alongside my certification in coaching. Blended with my lived experience as a modern woman, these are the tools that help you harness your superpower: knowing who you are, what you want, and choosing it.
So let’s talk about what it means to be a Phoenix.
The Phoenix embodies everything about doing the work without being stuck in our past, our trauma, or our stories. It teaches us to transmute and alchemize all of our pain, suffering, and experience into something powerful. Not by bypassing the hard stuff, but by honoring both light and dark, joy and storm.
The Phoenix evolves endlessly, honoring cycles of death and rebirth. Just as seasons shift, old parts of us must fall away so that new growth can emerge. To stay stuck in outdated identities or a traumatized nervous system is far less healthy than allowing ourselves to be reborn again and again.
To embody the Phoenix is to bravely choose. To lean into the fire, trusting that we have the tools to rise. Sometimes we need support. Sometimes it’s our first initiation. But always, the Phoenix archetype reminds us that courage, rebirth, and rising are possible.
For me, the Phoenix also carries deeply feminine energy. Fire is messy, flowy, and powerful without form. It reminds us that our feminine nature—often suppressed by the pace and demands of modern life—is sacred. And it invites us to live as all of it: light and dark, feminine and masculine, mind, body, and soul.
This has been my own journey. I am not teaching from a pedestal. I have walked through my own Phoenix fires countless times. That’s why I am passionate about guiding women through theirs.
This podcast used to be called It’s All Me, because so much of my journey was about claiming sovereignty. Over time, I realized that what truly empowered me was seeing myself as a Phoenix—constantly evolving, dying, and being reborn.
So I rebranded this podcast as a home for my fellow Phoenixes—for cycle breakers, soulful seekers, high achievers, mothers, and dreamers who feel like something is missing or out of alignment. The Modern Phoenix isn’t about titles, income, or roles. It’s about your essence, your truth, and your courage to evolve.
Here, you’ll find deep and twisty conversations and solo episodes that burn away conditioning and invite you to step into your most authentic self. You’ll get tools, mindsets, and resources to help you untangle who you really are from who you were told to be. And you’ll be given full permission to evolve as many times as necessary.
Thank you for being here. Let’s rise.