When Will It Be Enough? Reclaiming Your Inner ‘Enoughness’ in a Capitalist World

In this soulful December episode, Gervase pulls back the curtain on her decision to shift The Modern Phoenix Podcast to a monthly publishing schedule and the deeper question underneath it: When will it be enough?

From business to motherhood to Black Friday shopping spirals, she explores how capitalism and patriarchy train women to measure our value by how much we do, produce, and perform—and why it will never feel like enough if we’re only chasing external metrics.

You’ll be invited into a simple, somatic practice to reconnect with your body, your soul, and your inner sense of “I am already enough,” so you can move through the holidays and the new year with more intention, gentleness, and grounded power.

Listen to this episode to discover:

• Why Gervase is moving the podcast to a monthly schedule (and why that’s a power move, not a retreat).

• How capitalism quietly lives inside your thoughts, to-do lists, and sense of worth.

• The difference between “doing more” and actually feeling like enough.

• A simple hand-on-heart embodiment practice you can use anytime to come back to yourself.

• How reclaiming your inner enoughness changes the way you parent, work, and make decisions.

This episode is for you if:

• You are a woman who has tried to earn her worth by doing more—at work, at home, in your business, in motherhood—and it still never feels like enough. You’re tired of the hamster wheel but scared to step off. You’re craving a softer, more embodied way of living and leading that doesn’t require you to abandon yourself to be “successful.” You want to feel grounded, resourced, and okay inside your own body—no matter what your inbox, bank account, or holiday calendar looks like.

Pull Quotes:

• “We will never do enough on the outside for it to feel enough on the inside.”

• “Capitalism literally profits from us never feeling enough.”

• “Creating one podcast episode with love is more powerful than four frantic episodes from lack.”

• “You can’t take power from someone who is embodied in themselves.”

• “Just because something is normal in dominant culture doesn’t mean you need to do it.”

Resources Mentioned:

• Tulum Retreat — March 18–22, 2026
  A deep, luxurious, party-meets-prayer retreat experience for women in the jungle of Tulum, Mexico.

• Inner Knowing Immersion — Two 1:1 sessions with Gervase focused on one specific pattern that keeps you spiraled, plus a custom hypnosis track you keep forever.

• Soul Shift Intensive— A powerful deep-dive 1:1 experience to catalyze a shift in one core area of your life.

Join us:

• Be part of the Phoenix community—circles, retreats, and offerings that honor endings, beginnings, and everything in between. Join to receive biweekly entries from my Phoenix Diary: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/subscribe

Work with Gervase:

• Explore the Tulum Retreat (March 18–22, 2026) and step out of the capitalism hamster wheel and into a jungle oasis of healing, play, and sisterhood. - Tulum Retreat

• Book an Inner Knowing Immersion to start building an inner sense of enoughness that cannot be taken from you - The Inner Knowing Immersion

• 1:1 coaching - learn more about it here

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When Will It Be Enough? Reclaiming Your Inner ‘Enoughness’ in a Capitalist World

Episode Full Transcript

Hi friends, welcome back to another episode of The Modern Phoenix Podcast, coming in mid-December.

Thank you for listening in December. If your December is anything like mine, it can be a little bit of a chaotic time. Don’t worry, we’re going to get into it today.

I am your host, Gervase Kolmos—mind–body–soul somatic coach, intuitive guide, messy human and mom—and I want to talk to you today about the concept of enough.

When will it be enough?

Before I get into that, I don’t want to forget to tell you that, starting in January, this podcast is going to move to a monthly publishing schedule. I’ve been podcasting consistently for longer than most people I know. Most people give up and quit. Why? Because it takes a lot of time, money, effort, resources, and it’s a lot of content to churn out if you’re not a millionaire with an enormous business.

And I’m realizing: I have created enough podcast episodes for someone to really get to know me. I feel so proud of the vault of episodes that we have. I am in a season of my life where doing one podcast episode a month actually feels fantastic.

I do like doing them—I have a lot to say. Even trying out bi-weekly was really fun and I loved that, too. And then I just realized… would it ever be enough?

As a business owner, it just feels like there is always more you could be doing. There is always another stream of content and communication. There’s always another channel you “should” be on and using. There’s always another app. There’s always another social media thing you should be doing to grow your business—not even to grow it, but to just sustain it.

And while we’re going to use the both/and here—there are layers, and I’m not saying none of that is true—I had this moment literally yesterday where I was like: It’s enough.

I have done, over the last 12 years, enough in my business. I have built an enormous body of work that I feel really proud of. It has evolved and shed layers like a snake as often as I have, and to me, that was always the point. That was always the goal: to create a business that grows with you, that lets you shed old identities and evolve alongside the business that you created for freedom and expression—and of course, livelihood.

And also, I find myself in this season where, between my home life and my parenting life and my personal life and my professional life, I just feel like something’s got to give. The ROI doesn’t make sense for how much I put into content creation.

I find myself in this season of motherhood and life and business where I don’t believe that more equals more. I really feel like I’m having a moment of, “Simpler and less is best.”

And that applies especially to my business, because it’s a place where I have a lot of wiggle room. I’m always trying to find this balance between sharing myself and my life and also my teachings and my frameworks with you, so that I can be of service—so I can provide high-value offerings and content to women who are on the fence, thinking about changing their own lives, and also to people who have been with me for a decade.

And part of that balance is realizing when it’s enough. Realizing when I’ve created enough, I’ve done enough, I’ve said enough.

There’s always going to be more to say. There’s always going to be another idea. I could always do a free masterclass and another Instagram post and one more story and double down on the podcast. I could always hire more people or create more coaching containers and make another product and be on another video streaming platform.

There is always more that I could be doing in business. And also, I know for sure I’m in a season where it gets to be enough.

I wrote this quote on Instagram today. I said something like:

We will never do enough on the outside for it to feel enough on the inside.

And I want us to really sit with that for a minute.

Because just like me with my business—getting into this hamster-on-a-wheel energy of, “If I just posted more and podcasted more and said more things, then I would grow my business more and make more money and scale and everything would change”—this is what happens.

And I believe this happens for women in general, in life. Whether they’re approaching their business, their career, parenting, being a “good mom,” having the perfect house, getting everything done on their to-do list…

We tend to internalize this capitalism that tells us:

• It’s never enough.

• There’s always another thing you can do.

• There’s always more you can achieve or cross off your list or create in order to…

…do what?

Be enough?
Be successful?
Prove what?

And I meet a lot of women who have maybe really excelled in this area of doing, maybe more than I have. And I think I’ve done a lot. A lot of people make comments to me like, “From the outside, you do a lot.”

And then I look at my peers and I’m like, “I’m not podcasting every week. I don’t post on Instagram 24/7. I could do more.”

And these women who I meet, they say the same thing that I’m sharing with you here today, which is:

“I got to a point where I was so good. I did so much. And I finally had to reckon with the fact that inside, it just felt like it was never going to be enough. Even though I emptied that inbox or hit that bonus or achieved that milestone, I still felt this kind of icky feeling inside—this discontent, this lack.”

And I want us to unpack that a little bit today. Because that internalized feeling of lack is real.

It is a real byproduct of living in a culture that is defined by capitalism. It is the real product of internalizing systems of oppression that tell us our value is 100% tied to our external achievements—to how much we do, how much we produce and create, and how much money we make.

Capitalism literally profits from us never feeling enough.

And so many of us, especially mothers, learned this maybe from our mothers, maybe from elder women in our lives. It’s ancestral. This has been passed down for generations—this idea that our value, our enoughness, is tied to how much we do, how much we give, how much we deplete ourselves.

Our performance of being a woman.

And if you are tying your value to your performance—how well you’re performing out there, externally, outside of yourself—then you are not connected to what it feels like inside to be you.

You’re chasing an external metric and ignoring, likely, your body and soul messages.

That insistent feeling inside that tells us:

• Something is missing.

• This is actually not ever going to be enough.

• I don’t feel enough.

• I don’t feel like I have enough.

• I don’t feel like I do enough.

• I don’t feel like I am enough.

So this is passed down. It’s learned. It’s kind of through osmosis in the culture, through capitalism, through the systems that we belong to. We’ve really internalized this.

And it can be sneaky. So I’m not here to shame or blame anybody. We all have this.

I also notice it’s more pronounced in different areas. For some women, it might be really strong at work. For some women, they may feel this in their motherhood: like it doesn’t matter how perfect the house was, how “good” of a mom they were, how many cupcakes they baked, how many playdates they set up—one mistake ruins the whole thing. One bad day, one human moment, derails the whole train.

For me, business has been the place where I think I’ve grappled with this the most.

I’ve had to have these moments of real discernment, of like:

“Gervase, really? Is it that you haven’t put out enough podcasts? If you podcasted twice as much, do you think you’d be making twice as much money?”

And I have to really go inward to ask body and soul wisdom, to ask myself, “Does that feel true?” And to go, “No. That’s a lie. It will never be enough.”

And I have to connect to an internal sense of enoughness:

What I have to say one time is enough.

I don’t need to say it every day, all the time. I don’t need to keep changing the way that I market it and give it.

This is like bro marketing, okay? Late-stage capitalism really relies on bro marketing. I decided years ago, I’m not doing that in business.

And also, I still feel like I’m part of this system that rewards that behavior.

So what do I do?

If everybody else is playing the game and I just don’t play the game—because I know my power comes from within, because I know I am enough, because I trust and believe in each action that I take because I make it with such intention—how do I win at the game that everybody else is playing?

My answer would be: first of all, if you are connected to what enough feels like in your own being, in your own body, in your own self, you have already won.

I heard Megan Watterson talking about this on a podcast. She’s talking about the story of Thecla. I’m not going to get into this too much—you can research it—but she has a new book where she’s talking about this woman from around Jesus’ time who was criticized and stripped and paraded through the streets and humiliated and threatened and rejected because she kept standing up for herself.

Because she believed in her own truth.

Because she kept refusing to comply with the game that everybody else wanted her to play as a woman.

Megan Watterson talks about this and how Thecla’s true power came from inside.

There’s this moment where she’s been stripped and paraded through the streets, and she’s standing on this stage to be burned at the stake—or something very dramatic and violent like this—and the king is looking at her.

And he realizes: she is still more powerful than he is, because she is unwavering in her sense of self.

She is unwavering in her sense of enoughness.

Because you can’t take power from somebody who is embodied in themselves. It’s not up for grabs.

It doesn’t matter what you do to somebody. It doesn’t matter what you say. It doesn’t matter if they have this many likes on Instagram or not. It doesn’t matter if they make as much money as you. It doesn’t matter what their house looks like, what their body looks like, if they’re married or not. It doesn’t matter how their children behave. It doesn’t matter how fancy their job title or their LinkedIn bio is.

If their power comes from within, you can feel that, because they become unavailable for your lies. They become unavailable for your gaslighting and your pushing and your games.

So to answer that question of, “How do I let this be my new truth, my new normal—that I am already enough separate from how much I’m doing out there? How do I win?”

I would just say: you have already won.

And people will feel that.

And more importantly than other people feeling your power that can’t be separated from you when you are embodied, more important than what other people say or recognize or validate or do, is how it feels to be you.

When you connect to the truth of your humanity, to the truth of your experience as a soul having a human experience, and realize:

I already am enough.

I can record four podcasts this month or one.

I know that I am enough. What I have to offer is enough. It is of high value. I value it. And so I trust and believe that you will value it. The right person will hear it and know, “That is for me.” They will feel the frequency. They will feel the resonance of it.

And I don’t believe the stories that dominant culture wants me to run looping through my thoughts, which are:

“They’re not going to believe it unless you do four podcasts.
They’re not going to take you seriously.
You’re not going to be as professional.
They’re going to think you’re flaky.”

And on and on and on.

The stories come in, I notice them, and then I just go: That’s not true. It doesn’t get to be true for me. It’s just not the belief system from which I want to live my life.

And I offer that to you because it’s the holiday season.

I found myself even doing this the other night. We were doing Christmas shopping for the kids and trying to get all these Black Friday sales, and I felt like my brain was melting. I had so many tabs open. I felt all this pressure and urgency.

Urgency is another surefire sign:

“Buy all this stuff. Buy it right now.”

And then I had to notice: This is how capitalism wants me to feel.

And I just don’t believe that I’m going to fuck up Christmas so badly if I lean back, close the computer, and take a pause.

If I actually connect inside and ask:

• What do I feel would be the most meaningful way I could show up for my kids on Christmas?

• What do I feel is the truest representation of my love, devotion, care as a mother for my kids this Christmas?

And then make my move from there.

And maybe it still looks like shopping. But noticing when it feels like frantic, urgent shopping from a place of not-enoughness—
from a place of, “I haven’t bought enough, I haven’t done enough, I haven’t checked off enough of the kids’ Christmas list yet today”—
and going, “Wait a minute. This is my conditioning that has me on this hamster wheel. And I’m just not available for it anymore.”

I forgive myself for when it happens. I forgive myself for being human. I forgive myself for being just like a mom in the matrix, doing what I think is best for where I am right now.

I reserve the right to change my mind. I reserve the right to make mistakes. I reserve the right to forget.

And also, now I remember who I actually am. And what happens when I connect back into myself, my body, my soul.

So I want to offer you this simple practice.

If you’re driving right now, don’t do this. But I do this often by myself, and I do it during coaching calls. I notice that clients begin to do it intuitively on their own after we work together.

I want you to place your hand on your heart—one hand on your heart. And then you can put the other hand on your belly or on your womb, or honestly on any part of your body that would just feel good.

If it’s available to you, you can close your eyes for just a few seconds.

Feel the weight of your hand on your heart space.

Feel the points of connection between your hands and your skin or your clothing and your body.

Notice what your hands are offering to you.

My teacher, Jo Miller, did a masterclass where she taught us that our sense of touch is one of the first ones developed in the womb. You see babies sucking on their thumbs. We understand the soothing power of self-touch in the womb.

And then we grow up. We mature. And we think, “Oh, what? Putting your hand on your body is so weird. What is that going to do?”

Because we’re thinking about it and not actually experiencing our body receiving soothing touch.

What happens for me already, from doing that while talking to you with my eyes open, is: I notice I’ve taken two huge deep breaths. My brain didn’t tell my body—I didn’t think my way to those breaths. It’s just my body resetting itself, regulating, down-regulating.

I also notice that my thoughts are slowing down. My speech is slowing down. It feels like time is slowing down.

Because I am willing it to. I am allowing it to.

I am allowing myself to have an embodied experience of myself in my life—in my doing, talking to you, being me.

It’s not such a stretch. It’s not asking too much. It’s not “too woo-woo.” It’s not too hard. We don’t need that much time for it.

But we do have to, first, acknowledge that we have bodies, we have souls, and they have wisdom to share.

And that there is a feeling deep inside of satiation, of enoughness, of safety, of feeling nourished and satisfied and grounded and good—that is going to get us farther than any external doing ever could, than any Amazon shopping ever could.

We’re not going to do this all the time. It’s not always available to us. But it is often available to us.

And so if you find yourself, like me yesterday, feeling overwhelmed in business and going, “Oh, I’ve been focusing on doing more,” when really you believe you could do less and do it with this energy of such intention and focus and power and trust and love…

Creating one podcast episode with love a month for you, I believe, is more valuable than creating four frantic podcast episodes a month from this energy of dysregulation and lack and, “Oh, you’re not going to trust me unless you hear from me four times this week.”

And that may be true for you. You may not trust me unless you hear from me more often.

You get to make that decision. And I get to make this one.

There are so many other places in our lives where this happens—where we get to make the move that’s right for us, and that’s the power move.

Trusting that the other person is going to make their move, and we will be okay either way.

As long as we stop looking out there for our enoughness and get into the ritual and practice—strengthen the neural pathways that guide us back here, to ourselves—we will be okay.

We will begin to realize, more and more and more:

“Oh. I already am enough. I have enough. I’ve done enough.”

If you are like me, and almost every person I know right now, you don’t have a problem with doing. You don’t have a productivity issue—though every woman I speak to thinks that if she just worked faster, harder, better, more disciplined, more efficiently, then she would feel okay. That would calm her sense of anxiousness or that icky feeling inside or that incoherence or whatever the thing is.

And I am suggesting we’ve got it backwards.

What if we practiced letting what we’ve done each day be good enough—no matter what the day has looked like?

Whether you’ve answered a hundred emails or you’ve been at the beach with your kids all day. What if that got to be enough?

And what if we knew that because we had a felt sense of what it was like to be us in our own human bodies?

We knew it was enough because we had checked in somatically. We had checked in with our “inside eyes,” as I call them—with our inner knowing, with our soul—and gone:

“Okay. Here I am. There’s my sense of self. There’s my power. There’s that feeling of sinking in, taking my seat. Here I am. Okay.”

Life out there is always going to be happening. There’s always going to be more to do, particularly in a capitalism-obsessed culture like ours.

So it will be up to us to decide that we know better—and that we are ready to choose differently. Without judging ourselves or shaming other people, and just trusting that we’re all on our own journeys. We’re all having different experiences.

But we can all come home to ourselves.

And we can all remind each other.

When we see each other spiraling, or with smoke coming out of our ears, or doing too much, we can say:

“Hey, friend. I notice you’re in that place that I know so well, which is that feeling that it will never be enough. You haven’t done enough. You’re not good enough. And I just want to remind you: you are enough. You do enough. You have enough. I see you. The imperfect human in me sees the imperfect human in you.

And I wonder what it would be like to just put our hands on our hearts and take a few breaths. Just slow down. Slow time down a fraction of a second and explore what that feels like.”

And maybe you do that and it feels uncomfortable. And you actually hate it. And you’re like, “I can’t do that.”

That would be normal, too.

Clients come to me all the time in that place. We always get them where they need to be.

It’s normal, if you’ve never noticed yourself, that when you begin to do it, it feels like you can’t.

I want to remind you: we’re not meant to DIY these things.

We have not been taught to connect to an internal sense of self, of intuition, of enoughness. We don’t know how to feel our feelings. We don’t know how to be in our bodies. Because culture fosters our forgetting ourselves—our needs, our bodies, our inherent value.

And so, don’t do it alone.

Call me, okay?

We have just announced retreat to Tulum, Mexico—March 18th to 22nd, 2026. We are staying in an incredible villa in the jungle. It’s going to be luxury meets fun. It’s going to be vacation meets retreat. It’s going to be deep and transformational and healing, and also playful and party vibes.

I would love to invite you to join us. Everything you need is in the show notes.

I also have the Inner Knowing Immersion right now, which is two one-on-one sessions with me where we go deep on one specific issue that you notice keeps you spiraled up. And then I create a custom hypnosis track for you that you can keep forever.

It’s really a beautiful place to start if you’ve been wanting to pay attention to yourself—practice a different way of orienting as a woman in a modern world that rewards self-abandonment.

If you’re ready to feel enough on the inside and, from that place, create choices and acts and moments in your life and day that feel more like living prayer—that feel more intentional, that feel like you receive joy and satisfaction from the things that you do—I would love to invite you to reach out.

Find me on Instagram at @gervasekolmos. Book a Soul Shift Intensive or an Inner Knowing Immersion. Like, let’s go.

It gets to be so much better than we’ve been brainwashed to believe.

I hope that you can see I’m living proof of this. My life is not perfect, but it’s really fucking good.

From now on, you’ll hear from me once a month, and I’m so grateful that you’re along for the ride of this little experiment that I’m doing in entrepreneurship. I’m going to keep doing it.

Because once you lead from an inner sense of enoughness, it shifts everything.

It shifts the way you parent. It shifts the way you work. It shifts the way you relate to yourself, your body, your womanhood, your friendships, your business decisions.

And other people see that modeled and they go, “Oh. Just because something is normal in dominant culture doesn’t mean I need to do it. I have choice. I have agency. And when I know differently, I choose differently.”

That’s what this podcast is all about—helping us remember and see clearly and feel less overwhelmed and more empowered.

I hope that this served you. I love you so much. Thank you for spending your time here with me.

Please share this with a friend, a sister, a mother, a daughter who could use the reminder:

You are enough already.

I could use the reminder.

You are enough. You were born worthy.

I see you. I love you. We’re doing it.

See you back here in one month. Bye.