What is Inner Knowing, And Why Will It Change Your Life
The pressure to be more, do more, have more is exhausting, but what if the real problem isn’t you… but the unrealistic expectations you’ve internalized?
In this week’s episode, G unpacks the invisible forces keeping women stuck in a cycle of never enough, and reveals why Inner Knowing is the path to authentic happiness and fulfillment.
She’ll show you how to tune into your own body and soul wisdom, how to identify when you are being led by external pressures, and how to trust your inner compass to make empowered, aligned choices.
What You’ll Learn in This Episode:
What Inner Knowing is and why it’s so important for modern women
How to start listening to the body and soul’s signals for easier, more aligned decision making
How to break free from external expectations and step into your true essence
Practical tips on how to trust intuition in everyday life
The power of making decisions based on what feels right, not what looks right
Our souls are literally begging us to pay attention to our inner truth- and how we feel - instead of who we “should” be, how we are “supposed” to act and who they told us we are.
If you’d like to learn how to access your inner knowing - anytime and anywhere - join G in her Inner Knowing Mastermind.
This powerful 8-week experience will unlock the wisdom of your body and soul, and help you create a life aligned with your deepest truth.
Sessions begin April 30th, and spots are limited. Act now and learn how to free yourself from the pressure, perfectionism and “pushing through” of modern life.
It’s time you live a life that lights you up from the inside out.
Go here to enroll and get more details: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/inner-knowing-mastermind
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What is Inner Knowing, And Why Will It Change Your Life
Episode Full Transcript
Hello, my loves. Welcome back to the Modern Phoenix podcast. I am your guide and teacher and hostess with the mostest, Gervase Kolmos, Inner Transformation Coach—here to guide you out of the cage of your conditioned mind and home to your body-and-soul wisdom and your inner knowing. And today, we’re going to talk about inner knowing.
The Inner Knowing Mastermind is officially open for enrollment. Early-bird pricing is live until April 9th, so you have three more days to save 25%—that’s over $300. And this is so much more than a mastermind; it’s a transformative experience. My goal is for every woman there to have a felt experience of her own inner knowing every single week—over and over—so she can practice it, strengthen it, apply it in relationships and real-life circumstances, and get live coaching from me as conflicts and wobbles come up (those moments when your brain says “it doesn’t apply here”)—so I can guide you home.
I thought it would be helpful to do a podcast all about inner knowing so you can decide if this course is right for you—and so you can dive into the topic even if you have no interest in joining. Inner knowing is pretty much the main thing I’ve stood for throughout my 11 years as a coach. It’s the trick up my sleeve—the strategy and life skill that has never, ever let me down. Just listening and learning about it will serve you.
Let’s start by defining inner knowing for the purposes of this podcast. This is my working description, developed from lived experience as a modern Phoenix—endless cycles of death and rebirth, forgetting and remembering—and from coaching thousands of women to their own felt sense of inner knowing. By my definition, inner knowing is an organic combination of your body and soul wisdom, which I have found is always, in every moment, guiding you toward balance, healing, pleasure, joy, and what I call the next right thing.
It includes soul vision and body voice. I teach this everywhere—body and soul communicate differently than the rational mind. Body and soul speak in metaphor and imagery: inner-child pictures, sensations, gut instincts, intuition. Many women describe expansion, buzzing, or a clear click. All of these make up what I call inner knowing.
Inner knowing is knowing something on the inside that may not make sense on the outside. Step one is hard for modern women. We’ve been groomed to believe that “right, true, and real”—and the best way to success—lives outside of us in linear rules and gold stars. External knowing looks like one-plus-one-equals-two. Inner knowing is rarely linear. It’s cyclical, spiraling—leaving space for choices that don’t make sense but feel really good. It’s being with the person you never expected, landing the career you never imagined, deciding to stay home when you planned for corporate, or vice versa. Inner knowing often looks like the things that “don’t make sense.”
There’s a reason for that. We’re conditioned to let money, approval, and optics validate our choices. Yet, in my work—from C-suite leaders to soulful SAHMs—there’s one constant: the prescribed way often doesn’t feel good on the inside.
A client recently started drawing and discovered she’s an artist. When she explored what actually resources her after a draining corporate day, art surfaced. She drew a before-and-after self-portrait. “Before” was a contracted woman twisted into a pretzel, small and overwhelmed. “After” was liberated, aligned, clear, uncovered.
Our inner knowing gets covered by external noise and shoulds—patriarchy, white supremacy, capitalism, “good feminist,” “good mom,” religion, don’t be greedy, be successful but not too successful, be liked but not selfish. So many rules tie women into knots. When we quiet the noise and tune to inner imagery, sensation, energy—the soul begging for attention—we emerge uncovered. The next right step becomes obvious when we aren’t fixated on whether it’s linear, likable, or profitable. Nature is our guide. It’s cyclical, sometimes slow, sometimes sudden, not about maximum harvest but about authentic growth. Make your life yours—a full expression of who you are inside—and let your outside choices reflect her. That is the art of being a woman.
No, it’s not always simple. And no, it doesn’t mean lying in the grass for weeks. We’re not going all-or-nothing. When we collapse into victim or martyr, we’re in a defense pattern. That’s human. Your body protected you. But when you stay stuck there, you can’t hear your body’s wisdom or access intuition. Then nothing feels as good as it looks—and if it doesn’t feel good, what’s the point?
Give yourself permission—and reprogram your subconscious—to believe you deserve a life rich in pleasure and a felt experience of your authentic expression. Once you taste this, you won’t go back. It isn’t always easy; there are winters and storms. The question is: how do we become the eye of the storm—preserving the spark within? How do we rise like a phoenix without phoenixing 24/7? Through cyclical evolution: death and rebirth. What’s not serving me? What’s being born? I am becoming. That is the journey. And we need tools, guides, and community because dominant culture benefits from us being busy, overwhelmed, and distracted.
I shared on Instagram that the political landscape felt chaotic. When I don’t have a clear inner sense of “where am I and what’s my next right step,” I know no action is needed yet. I keep checking in; it can change in a moment. Recently it did—clarity dropped in. I was no longer reactive to the news. My inner knowing said: boom—this is where we go. I didn’t rush; I waited and trusted I’d know when it was time and what was right for me. If that meant less news for a bit, fine. More for a bit, fine. I kept checking my inner barometer.
When you live this way, external circumstances matter less. We come back to the It’s All Me framework (Module 6 in the Inner Knowing Mastermind): orient yourself squarely in the center so you don’t react; instead, regulate and resource, know who you are and what you believe, and then—boom—move with clarity, alignment, power, and decision. Every action becomes potent. All the chaos is more reason to quiet the noise and drop into inner knowing—not to bypass forever, but to respond wisely. With community, tools, and a guide, you can get back in the game, testing your capacity day by day. This is spiral work, not linear. We choose curiosity over judgment (Module 7).
This serves us in everything—natural disasters, grief, politics, ruptures with our kids. It always helps to go inward, quiet the noise, and find the next right step. Trust it’s enough. Then take it. Over time, those steps move the needle toward the woman you’re here to be—rising as the phoenix. You develop a responsive, flexible system that can be with chaos without over-identifying with it. You learn the difference between wisdom and an information onslaught, and you know when your nervous system says “receive” versus “nope—resource.” You learn how to resource so the channels come back online even in chaos.
While preparing for this podcast and the mastermind, I reflected on how inner knowing is a magical, mystical gift—our sixth sense (really, many senses). It became my lifeline. Yes, it eventually shaped my career, but it serves far beyond money. It came online early because I’m highly sensitive and intuitive. For many sensitive women, that sensitivity becomes a survival skill. Like a blind person’s hearing sharpening, a sensitive person can develop powerful intuition that cuts through noise and alchemizes nonsense. It simplifies.
As a child I often thought, “the math is not mathing.” When life’s linear math doesn’t add up, we either make ourselves the problem or we do different math. I sensed outer realities and my inner reality. What is that inner thing? What’s its language? Over and over, I trusted the clear inner click—euphoric mind-body-soul “yes.”
I tell this story a lot: I quit a corporate job that looked fine but felt miserable. Everyone said, “Work harder, be nicer, make more money—then you’ll feel fine.” My insides said, “This is not it.” I quit. I sat next to a life coach, learned about an industry I didn’t know existed, and my body and soul sang: this way. Because I had already created space (“not this”), the brainwashing didn’t drown me out. I followed the twisty path.
I needed language. I called it intuition, worked with a coach, explored Human Design, unpacked conditioning about “right” moves. I became obsessed. I designed my life around inner knowing: health choices, career choices, money, friendships, parenting, rest, play. I reverse-engineered everything from the inside out. Every choice became like a hundred choices. I stopped overperforming, overthinking, overdoing. When you align with inner knowing—over internalized “good woman” rules—the next right thing is more powerful than a thousand proving actions. Energy is conserved. Potency rises. Trust deepens. And I thought: this is the elixir—why aren’t we teaching women this?
Instead, we’re told there’s one way to health, wealth, relationships, career. Enter bio-individuality. My friend, health coach Laura Butler, once said: vegetarians insist on veg; carnivores insist on meat. The truth? Every body is different—ancestry, environment, genes, gut, goals. Now apply that to life. We keep templating everything to a single “right way.” It’s boring—and deadening. Honor that another woman may thrive her way because of her blueprint. So put on blinders. Stop looking outside for worthiness criteria. Come back to It’s All Me: Who am I? What feels healthy for me? What does success feel like? Which relationships and resources fill my cup?
If you’re still here, you’re picking up what I’m putting down. I’d love to invite you into the Inner Knowing Mastermind. I truly believe it will be the most powerful thing I’ve run to date. Creating this curriculum stretched me. Shoutout to Sophia Prater, who helped me name the thing I do without knowing I do it—the thing that, if a million women learned it, could change the world. Inner Knowing.
It’s eight weeks, a hybrid of live teaching and group coaching, so you can ask your specific questions in real time. We start April 30th. Early-bird pricing is available for three more days—you can save 25% (over $300). I’d love to have you.
Having a concrete, well-rounded understanding of the natural, invisible intelligence flowing through your body and soul can change your experience of life—no matter what you’re going through, where you’ve been, or how convinced you are that you can’t change. Activating your intuition and creating safety, balance, wisdom, and pleasure inside can transform everything outside.
I’m so excited to share this with you. I’ll be talking more about Inner Knowing on the podcast in the coming weeks. If you have questions, DM me @gervasekolmos on Instagram, or email hi@gervasekolmos.com. All the info is in the show notes, on gervasekolmos.com, or at the link in my bio—you know the drill.
I would be honored to guide you through Phoenix Cycles and a way of womaning that’s restorative, balancing, regenerative, inspiring, and pleasure-filled. You will never regret the sometimes-scary journey from the conditioned mind to your body and soul. I love you so much. I’ll meet you back here in two weeks. Thank you for spending your precious time with me. It means the world when you share the podcast with friends or on your stories. Please pass this to another woman who knows there has to be a better way—a different way—something she’s missing but hasn’t been taught—and she’s like, “someone has the key, the missing puzzle piece.” Share this with her so she can come home to herself, activate her own intuition, and become the solution to the problems she’s been trying to solve out there—by activating her inner knowing.
All right. I love you guys. See you soon. Bye. Thank you.