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Stay or Go? Healing Relationship Patterns with Katarina Polonska

For this week’s podcast, I brought along a friend… high-performance relationship coach and gender dynamics social scientist, Katarina Polonska! In this episode, we discuss how to make the difficult decision of whether to stay or leave a relationship, how to navigate messy power struggles, and how to move from individualism to collaboration to build stronger, more connected relationships. Yep, we cover it all!

Watch this episode now to discover:

  • The #1 way to get clarity on whether you should stay or leave a relationship (hint: the result is win-win: you either transform the relationship or you leave and find someone who is more aligned)

  • The 6-month strategy to "clean up your side of the street" and find undeniable clarity

  • The blame game that often happens in the power struggle phase of a relationship when our wounds (aka: sneaky unaddressed demons) like to come out

  • The responsibility we have to try and understand our partner's needs and to hold them AND ours with equal importance

  • How we've moved away from being collaborative in relationships to being individualistic and believing our needs matter more than our partners

  • A mindset shift that can help you have a better relationship with your in-laws and extended family (even if you couldn't be more yin and yang!)

About Katarina Polonska:

Katarina is a high-performance relationship coach and gender dynamics social scientist who specializes in helping people make clear relationship decisions. Her expertise in attachment theory, behavioral science of attraction, and the cultural influences on relationships provides a unique framework for understanding and transforming relationship patterns.

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The New Paradigm of Female Friendships

The old paradigm of "mean girls," competition, jealousy and back-stabbing is ending. Covid has kind of made it non-negotiable to take our friendships to the next level or let them go entirely, but most women haven't actually been taught HOW to do this. Until now (drum roll) . . .

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