Unpacking the Mother Wound
G is BACK from Summer break and ready to drop some đ„: Welcome to the new season of The Champagne Society podcast! On this episode, Gervase introduces us to writer, speaker, and Conscious Relationships Coach Galina Singer. Gervase and Galina expose the origins and unrealistic expectations of the âgood motherâ narrative and speak to how self-awareness propelled them forward into healing their mother wound. Keep listening to learn how to use self-awareness as your first step toward healing.
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What if every challenging experience in your lifeâthe difficult relationships, the heartbreak, the family dramaâwasn't happening TO you, but was actually teaching you where you still needed to grow? This week, Gervase shares the spiritual psychology framework that has helped her reframe triggers, move through some of lifeâs most traumatic events, and no longer be affected by other peopleâs perception of her.
This isn't about spiritual bypassing. It's about understanding that you're a soul having a human experience, and Earth is literally school for your consciousness.
Listen to this episode now to discover:
Why youâre a soul having a human experience, and how to view lifeâs challenges as a video game so you can move to the next level in your journey
Why Earth Stackers (spiritual allies) keep sending you the same lessons until you learn them (spoiler: your triggers are your curriculum)
3 powerful questions to ask yourself when youâre feeling triggered so it no longer has power over you
The difference between religion and spirituality that allows you to connect with the divine without the dogma
How to shift from âI am upset becauseâŠâ (victim mode) to âhow can I take my power backâ (spiritual boss mode)
Why your most difficult relationships are actually your greatest teachers (and how to work with them instead of against them)
The ONE question that can reveal your bigger intention in life
Hey Mamas, letâs be YOU again, while raising them:
Introducing Whole Mother Rising, a 4 week mini-mastermind for mothers who are ready to reclaim their power, purpose, and joy⊠without guilt.
Because the world has endless advice on how to be a mom, but almost nothing to help you be YOURSELF while mothering.
Check it out here: https://gervasekolmos.podia.com/whole-mother-rising
What if the key to getting hard tasks done when youâre overwhelmed (or just bored!) isnât willpowerâbut more pleasure? This week, Gervase shares how to work with your nervous system by infusing your daily life with pleasure and intentionality when you want to give up.
This isnât about numbing out or pushing through. Itâs about tending to yourself so you can stay in the game instead of burning out or bailing when things get tough.
Hit play now to discover:
The kitchen sink saga that sparked this episode, and why itâs Gervaseâs North Star when it comes to her business, parenting and I getting sh*tty tasks done (aka: never-ending admin!)
The ONE question to ask yourself when you want to bail on a hard task so you can stay in the game without burning out
Why adding just 1% more pleasure can ease overwhelm, help you get the thing done, and soothe your nervous system
How intention anchors you when motivation is low and pressure is high
How to stay in the âuncomfortable middleâ when you want to quit your job (and burn it all down!)
If youâre tired of grinding your way through resistance (or giving up and regretting it later) and youâd like to adopt a more joyful, soul-honoring way of being during these moments, this short and simple episode is for you.
For this weekâs podcast, I brought along a friend⊠high-performance relationship coach and gender dynamics social scientist, Katarina Polonska! In this episode, we discuss how to make the difficult decision of whether to stay or leave a relationship, how to navigate messy power struggles, and how to move from individualism to collaboration to build stronger, more connected relationships. Yep, we cover it all!
Watch this episode now to discover:
The #1 way to get clarity on whether you should stay or leave a relationship (hint: the result is win-win: you either transform the relationship or you leave and find someone who is more aligned)
The 6-month strategy to "clean up your side of the street" and find undeniable clarity
The blame game that often happens in the power struggle phase of a relationship when our wounds (aka: sneaky unaddressed demons) like to come out
The responsibility we have to try and understand our partner's needs and to hold them AND ours with equal importance
How we've moved away from being collaborative in relationships to being individualistic and believing our needs matter more than our partners
A mindset shift that can help you have a better relationship with your in-laws and extended family (even if you couldn't be more yin and yang!)
About Katarina Polonska:
Katarina is a high-performance relationship coach and gender dynamics social scientist who specializes in helping people make clear relationship decisions. Her expertise in attachment theory, behavioral science of attraction, and the cultural influences on relationships provides a unique framework for understanding and transforming relationship patterns.
Does every task on your to-do list feel as equally urgent and like a threat to your survival? In this week's episode, Gervase dives deep into the pattern of over-functioning that keeps so many women stuck in perpetual stress. You'll learn why your nervous system gets locked in high alert and overdrive, even for unimportant tasks such as the laundry. And how this cycle of perpetual doing and achieving causes burnout and a never-ending sense of âpsychotic urgency.â
And to help you rewire these patterns, Gervase shares practical steps such as how to reconnect to your body, slow down and create moments of calm even in the chaos of modern life.
Watch this episode now to discover:
The biggest indicator that youâre an over-functioner and how this âpsychotic urgencyâ prevents you from being, enjoying and living life
Why your brain can't relax when itâs stuck in overfunctioning without signals from your body first (and how this creates a chicken-and-egg problem for over-functioners)
The real cost of constantly operating like a computer instead of honoring your HUMAN need for rhythm, rest and pleasure
A simple 4-step practice to interrupt the overfunctioning pattern when you feel yourself spiraling
The narcissistic-like belief many of us have that unknowingly depletes your energy (and how to contribute without sacrificing yourself)
How to create 30-second intervals throughout your day to tune into your bodyâs wisdom and gradually rewire your nervous system
Tired of contorting yourself into a pretzel so youâre liked? Or so you donât make others feel uncomfortable by being YOU? In this weekâs episode (which is our first ever video podcast!), Gervase dives deep into why women have been conditioned to âperformâ and prioritize being liked over being authentic. Youâll learn practical tools and a few hard-hitting truth bombs to help you break free from this hypervigilance so you can come home to yourself.
Watch This Episode To Discover:
Why you're taught that likeability is the gold standard for women (while men aren't held to the same expectation)
What this hypervigilance on everybody else's comfort level is doing to your nervous system
The real cost of abandoning yourself to please others (hint: no amount of external validation can make up for the 3 things that youâre losing)
Why other people's triggers about you are actually reflections of their OWN discomfort, and have nothing to do with you
How to stop making yourself responsible for others' emotions and reclaim your power and agency
A practical exercise to transform your relationship with triggers so you can use them as data for self-discovery
The intoxicating freedom that comes when you focus on liking yourself rather than being liked by everyone else
Want Gervaseâs personal guidance?
If youâd like to become who youâre really meant to be (instead of who they told you to be), youâre invited to join Gervaseâs upcoming Inner Knowing Mastermind. During these 8 group calls, youâll get an embodied sense of who you are, whatâs right for you, and how to choose it.
But hurry: the first call starts April 30th - and to keep them intimate, thereâs only a limited number of seats left!
Visit GervaseKolmos.com/inner-knowing-mastermind to reserve yours now.