It's OK To Press The "Easy" Button
What if the key to getting hard tasks done when you’re overwhelmed (or just bored!) isn’t willpower—but more pleasure? This week, Gervase shares how to work with your nervous system by infusing your daily life with pleasure and intentionality when you want to give up.
This isn’t about numbing out or pushing through. It’s about tending to yourself so you can stay in the game instead of burning out or bailing when things get tough.
Hit play now to discover:
The kitchen sink saga that sparked this episode, and why it’s Gervase’s North Star when it comes to her business, parenting and I getting sh*tty tasks done (aka: never-ending admin!)
The ONE question to ask yourself when you want to bail on a hard task so you can stay in the game without burning out
Why adding just 1% more pleasure can ease overwhelm, help you get the thing done, and soothe your nervous system
How intention anchors you when motivation is low and pressure is high
How to stay in the “uncomfortable middle” when you want to quit your job (and burn it all down!)
If you’re tired of grinding your way through resistance (or giving up and regretting it later) and you’d like to adopt a more joyful, soul-honoring way of being during these moments, this short and simple episode is for you.
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What if the key to getting hard tasks done when you’re overwhelmed (or just bored!) isn’t willpower—but more pleasure? This week, Gervase shares how to work with your nervous system by infusing your daily life with pleasure and intentionality when you want to give up.
This isn’t about numbing out or pushing through. It’s about tending to yourself so you can stay in the game instead of burning out or bailing when things get tough.
Hit play now to discover:
The kitchen sink saga that sparked this episode, and why it’s Gervase’s North Star when it comes to her business, parenting and I getting sh*tty tasks done (aka: never-ending admin!)
The ONE question to ask yourself when you want to bail on a hard task so you can stay in the game without burning out
Why adding just 1% more pleasure can ease overwhelm, help you get the thing done, and soothe your nervous system
How intention anchors you when motivation is low and pressure is high
How to stay in the “uncomfortable middle” when you want to quit your job (and burn it all down!)
If you’re tired of grinding your way through resistance (or giving up and regretting it later) and you’d like to adopt a more joyful, soul-honoring way of being during these moments, this short and simple episode is for you.
For this week’s podcast, I brought along a friend… high-performance relationship coach and gender dynamics social scientist, Katarina Polonska! In this episode, we discuss how to make the difficult decision of whether to stay or leave a relationship, how to navigate messy power struggles, and how to move from individualism to collaboration to build stronger, more connected relationships. Yep, we cover it all!
Watch this episode now to discover:
The #1 way to get clarity on whether you should stay or leave a relationship (hint: the result is win-win: you either transform the relationship or you leave and find someone who is more aligned)
The 6-month strategy to "clean up your side of the street" and find undeniable clarity
The blame game that often happens in the power struggle phase of a relationship when our wounds (aka: sneaky unaddressed demons) like to come out
The responsibility we have to try and understand our partner's needs and to hold them AND ours with equal importance
How we've moved away from being collaborative in relationships to being individualistic and believing our needs matter more than our partners
A mindset shift that can help you have a better relationship with your in-laws and extended family (even if you couldn't be more yin and yang!)
About Katarina Polonska:
Katarina is a high-performance relationship coach and gender dynamics social scientist who specializes in helping people make clear relationship decisions. Her expertise in attachment theory, behavioral science of attraction, and the cultural influences on relationships provides a unique framework for understanding and transforming relationship patterns.
Does every task on your to-do list feel as equally urgent and like a threat to your survival? In this week's episode, Gervase dives deep into the pattern of over-functioning that keeps so many women stuck in perpetual stress. You'll learn why your nervous system gets locked in high alert and overdrive, even for unimportant tasks such as the laundry. And how this cycle of perpetual doing and achieving causes burnout and a never-ending sense of “psychotic urgency.”
And to help you rewire these patterns, Gervase shares practical steps such as how to reconnect to your body, slow down and create moments of calm even in the chaos of modern life.
Watch this episode now to discover:
The biggest indicator that you’re an over-functioner and how this “psychotic urgency” prevents you from being, enjoying and living life
Why your brain can't relax when it’s stuck in overfunctioning without signals from your body first (and how this creates a chicken-and-egg problem for over-functioners)
The real cost of constantly operating like a computer instead of honoring your HUMAN need for rhythm, rest and pleasure
A simple 4-step practice to interrupt the overfunctioning pattern when you feel yourself spiraling
The narcissistic-like belief many of us have that unknowingly depletes your energy (and how to contribute without sacrificing yourself)
How to create 30-second intervals throughout your day to tune into your body’s wisdom and gradually rewire your nervous system
Tired of contorting yourself into a pretzel so you’re liked? Or so you don’t make others feel uncomfortable by being YOU? In this week’s episode (which is our first ever video podcast!), Gervase dives deep into why women have been conditioned to “perform” and prioritize being liked over being authentic. You’ll learn practical tools and a few hard-hitting truth bombs to help you break free from this hypervigilance so you can come home to yourself.
Watch This Episode To Discover:
Why you're taught that likeability is the gold standard for women (while men aren't held to the same expectation)
What this hypervigilance on everybody else's comfort level is doing to your nervous system
The real cost of abandoning yourself to please others (hint: no amount of external validation can make up for the 3 things that you’re losing)
Why other people's triggers about you are actually reflections of their OWN discomfort, and have nothing to do with you
How to stop making yourself responsible for others' emotions and reclaim your power and agency
A practical exercise to transform your relationship with triggers so you can use them as data for self-discovery
The intoxicating freedom that comes when you focus on liking yourself rather than being liked by everyone else
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The pressure to be more, do more, have more is exhausting, but what if the real problem isn’t you… but the unrealistic expectations you’ve internalized?
In this week’s episode, G unpacks the invisible forces keeping women stuck in a cycle of never enough, and reveals why Inner Knowing is the path to authentic happiness and fulfillment.
She’ll show you how to tune into your own body and soul wisdom, how to identify when you are being led by external pressures, and how to trust your inner compass to make empowered, aligned choices.
What You’ll Learn in This Episode:
What Inner Knowing is and why it’s so important for modern women
How to start listening to the body and soul’s signals for easier, more aligned decision making
How to break free from external expectations and step into your true essence
Practical tips on how to trust intuition in everyday life
The power of making decisions based on what feels right, not what looks right
Our souls are literally begging us to pay attention to our inner truth- and how we feel - instead of who we “should” be, how we are “supposed” to act and who they told us we are.
If you’d like to learn how to access your inner knowing - anytime and anywhere - join G in her Inner Knowing Mastermind.
This powerful 8-week experience will unlock the wisdom of your body and soul, and help you create a life aligned with your deepest truth.
Sessions begin April 30th, and spots are limited. Act now and learn how to free yourself from the pressure, perfectionism and “pushing through” of modern life.
It’s time you live a life that lights you up from the inside out.
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