Instead of Being Selfless, Be Your Fullest Self

Mindset
Written By Ember29 (Sophie)

This week on the It’s All Me podcast, Gervase shares a client-inspired discussion about selflessness and the lies we’ve been fed that have led us into martyrdom, victimhood, and insecurity. Listen in as she sifts through where the feelings of guilt, shame, and the “I don’t get to have that” mentality come from, the work she and her clients are doing to hold the internal line of authenticity, and how believing in yourself doesn’t take away from anyone, but actually gives so much more to your relationships. Keep listening to hear how you get to be the one to reject the lies you’ve been sold, rework your beliefs, show up as the boldest version of yourself. and how you can be supported through the process.

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In this second half of a two-part series, Gervase shines a light on how to get what you want at home. Using two highly common archetypes of women who aren’t currently getting their wants or needs met in the home, Gervase shares why this isn’t “just the way it is” and how you can take back your agency and embrace your power to evolve your life into a reflection of who you are on the inside. Listen in for the sneaky beliefs that are keeping you small, how accepting a life of not getting what you want can manifest into other symptoms in your life, why being needless and wantless is actually hurting your family, and so many more valuable insights (Seriously grab a pen). Keep listening for real-time practices of having grace for your current self and the shifts you can make to start getting what you want out of your home life.

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Chelsea is a Licensed Professional Counselor providing integrative mental health therapy in Charleston, SC. Her therapy practice specializes in working with adults, couples, and families in the midst of life transitions, relationship stress, trauma recovery, family systems, anxiety, depression, and stress. She is also a family constellation group facilitator and a visual artist who merges her many talents to curate transformative experiences.

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In a masterclass-style solo episode this week, Gervase dives into how to ask for what you want at your place of work. Listen in as she discusses the three main beliefs of a high-performing woman who isn’t getting what she wants, the role of our sympathetic nervous system, the impact of the company you keep, what could be keeping you in a martyr mindset, and how to decipher if these beliefs are stemming from the culture of a toxic workplace or your own belief system. Keep listening for the action steps you can take to make the shift and start getting or creating what you want at work.

Catch part 2 in two weeks: How to get what you want at home

Mindset
Mindset
Instead of Being Selfless, Be Your Fullest Self
Mindset

This week on the It’s All Me podcast, Gervase shares a client-inspired discussion about selflessness and the lies we’ve been fed that have led us into martyrdom, victimhood, and insecurity. Listen in as she sifts through where the feelings of guilt, shame, and the “I don’t get to have that” mentality come from, the work she and her clients are doing to hold the internal line of authenticity, and how believing in yourself doesn’t take away from anyone, but actually gives so much more to your relationships. Keep listening to hear how you get to be the one to reject the lies you’ve been sold, rework your beliefs, show up as the boldest version of yourself. and how you can be supported through the process.

Mindset
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This week on the IAM podcast, Gervase drops in with her thoughts on the transformative opportunity that lies within the Spring Equinox and the practice of aligning your life and body with nature, as she shares her personal experience of tuning into nature and the changes it made in her life. Listen in as she breaks down why the metaphor of nature is relevant to our lives, how seeing your life as parallel with nature can strengthen your mindset and your resilience to live through the hard experiences (or seasons) in your life, and why Spring’s New Year may be her favorite day of the year.

Mindset, Femininity
Ember29 (Sophie)
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